African Men Dating White Women In Usa
Jun 13, 2017 I am a black woman who doesn’t care if black men date and marry white women. Interracial relationships are not a day at the beach. I dated black men most of my life and then married a white man for about 3 years. Although my husband knew a lot about black people, he could never know what it is really like to be black. One more reason which has recently come to light is the fact that some Black men see it as a status symbol, a sign that they are successful, wealthy and accomplished when they marry White women. This fact is present even in polygamous cultures in Africa such as Nigeria where it has been observed that some wealthy statesmen, even after marrying several indigenous wives, still go ahead to marry white women.
Dating can be quite an intimidating process for men. A lot of guys are self-conscious and find it difficult to approach beautiful women. The fear of rejection is intense. Imagine being a 45-year-old male with a balding head, bloated stomach, and low self-esteem. You are hanging out on a trendy beach in California that is rife with hot looking bikini babes. These women might be looking at you but it’s not because they find you attractive. Most of these chicks wouldn’t date a guy like you in a million years. Now, imagine that you are that same guy but you are now hanging out on a beach in a foreign country. There are loads of gorgeous women cruising around and they are giving you the eye. This time, however, they are checking you out because they are actually interested in you. It’s like you’ve landed in some bizarre alternate universe.
Aug 10, 2016 My Black Women Dating Experience on Black Cupid. Interracial Cupid is not the only heaven on earth (at least when you are in the USA) for white guys who want to meet black girls online. There’s another site that goes by the name of Black Cupid. As the name says, it’s a dating site for black people. It finds that differences in incarceration and employment dynamics between black and white men account for half of the black–white marriage gap. The black–white differences in marriage in the US are striking. In 2006, 67% of white women between ages 25 and 54 were married, while only 34% of black women were – a gap of 33. Single american women. Single american women looking for love, friendship, serious relationship and marriage. Every single american woman is beautiful in her own way, meet them all. Age: 18-21 18-25 21-28 25-32 28-35 32-40 35-45 40-50 45-55 50-60 60-70 70-80 80-90 91+.
You don’t need to master time travel or take a journey to a far away galaxy to find such a place. These places exist right here on our planet. There are numerous countries where women prefer white guys to the local men. There are a lot of reasons for this. Here are 15 countries where women only want white males.
15 Indonesia
This Southeast Asian country is full of natural beauty that extends to the women. Like most foreign countries, Indonesia has their own unique customs and rituals that might seem strange to outsiders. Men enjoy the patriarchy but women are still treated with respect and courtesy. Generally speaking, Indonesian women have a thing for white males. It’s not uncommon to see young Indonesian woman hooking up with much older white males. Age differences aren’t seen as a problem. As long as you have the financial capability to take care of your Indonesian girlfriend, most families will welcome you with open arms. Indonesian women believe that white males can provide emotional and financial stability. If you plan on marrying an Indonesian woman just know that the law requires you both to be of the same religion. It’s an easy obstacle to get around.
14 Philippines
The Philippines consists of over 7,000 islands that are home to over 100 million people. It is considered a developing country that still has a lot of work to do. Some of the bigger cities like Manila and Cebu City are packed with traffic and people but there are countless outer areas that are like paradise. Filipinas love white males and they go out of their way to find them. White males are seen as good providers that can improve a woman’s lifestyle. The great thing is that most Filipinas are loyal and devoted to their men. Sure, there are those that mess around but you find that everywhere you go. The cost of living is low in the Philippines and it doesn’t take much money to support a Filipina. Just take a stroll down any street and you’ll meet a nice one.
13 Taiwan
This is another country in which the patriarchy runs the show. Therefore activities like carousing with hookers and getting massages with happy endings are pretty normal. Even for married guys. This is a place where a white male can have a field day. There are loads of gorgeous Taiwanese women of all ages looking for foreigners to fall in love with. The women are nowhere near as desperate to be lifted out of poverty as in other countries but many certainly wouldn’t mind if you brought them back to your country. A lot of Taiwanese women simply prefer white males to Taiwanese guys. It’s another case in which they will remain by your side as long as you are a half-decent provider and you treat them with a bit of respect.
12 Ukraine
Ukraine is relatively stable compared to a lot of other countries but there are still a lot of troubles and looming threats which makes some residents want to leave for greener pastures. Some of these Ukrainians just happen to be smoking-hot women that are looking for the right guy to come along to take them far away. Many Ukrainians speak English which makes it easier to communicate with them than women from other parts of the world. These women are smart, sophisticated, and they’re looking for a better life just like anyone else. Forget the erotic journey from Milan to Minsk. Head straight to Kiev and the surrounding area for a while and take in some of the amazing scenery that this place has to offer. Hint: Go in the summer months.
11 Mexico
Most swinging dudes that have visited Mexico with their buddies know how hot a lot of those senoritas are. They like to have a good time, they are generally devoted to their men, and they love white guys. It’s easy enough to find a stunningly beautiful Mexican woman in the bigger cities but you will find your share wholesome women in smaller towns too. These women are family oriented and most obsess over getting married. Many of them are also quite proper due to the heavy religious influence that permeates the country but that doesn’t mean that they don’t have a naughty side to them. Mexico is great for a newly-retired single guy that wants to live in a tropical region with a lower cost of living and a slew of hot Latina women.
10 Japan
Did you know that the majority of people that enter the United States on marriage visas are Japanese women? It isn’t cheap to live in Japan and more men are opting to stay single so that they don’t need to support a wife and kids. That leaves a whole lot of cute Japanese girls available to western men and Japanese women don’t mind this one bit. While older Japanese people don’t usually feel the same warmth towards westerners, the younger generations welcome white guys with open arms. Most Japanese women are quite satisfied as long as there is enough money to eat and pay the bills. If you ever plan on taking a trip to Asia, be sure to stop in Tokyo for a few days. You won’t regret it.
9 Brazil
This South American country has had its troubles recently but one thing they have no problem with is having a large population of delightfully dark-eyed dames. A lot of Miss Universes have come from Brazil so you can be sure that there will be hot women wherever you go. It won’t normally be as simple as walking up to a beautiful woman and dragging her back to your hotel room. Brazilian gals might have the hots for while men but you need to show respect and put a bit of romance into the situation. If you can act like a gentleman and show a modicum of sophistication then you should be able to land yourself one heck of a woman. Just be sure to not let your eyes stray too far as Brazilian women can also have a serious jealous side.
8 China
It is estimated that there is an average of 118 men per 100 women in this massively populated country. If you are a white male that has visited China then there is a good chance that you’ve seen first-hand how some Chinese women try to catch your attention. Sure, some are simply looking to dig into your wallet but there are plenty of them that would love to have a serious relationship with a westerner. If you aren’t exactly a “one woman guy” then you will like the fact that a lot of Chinese women expect their men to go out for a night on the town and get busy with other women. It doesn’t matter if you are in a big city or a small village; Chinese women really dig white males.
7 Argentina
Continuing our tour of South America we take a look at another country where women seem to only want white males. Argentina has a large expat population that was drawn by the country’s natural splendor and colorful history among other things. Let’s not forget about all of those Argentinean ladies that prefer white guys. You can meet these women pretty much anywhere and a lot of them are very pleasant and, more importantly, approachable. They are mostly well-educated, personable, and easy to please. There are a lot of guys who are living in Argentina with their Argentinean wife/girlfriend and there are quite a few foreign guys that have brought their Argentinean queens to their native land. The Argentinean economy has stagnated a bit in recent years but the availability of sexy ladies that want white guys is booming.
6 Latvia
Women in Latvia outnumber the men by about 8% and they also live significantly longer. There are far more women enrolled in higher education while many guys are happy to drink their faces off in bars and engage in other risky activity. These are just a couple of the many reasons why more and more Latvian women are looking abroad to find a suitor. You would likely be better off going to places that aren’t drinking establishments to find a good woman as you don’t want to be confused for a reckless drunkard. Try going to lower key places like cafes, galleries, or libraries so that you come across as educated and a bit sophisticated. Latvian women appreciate a worldly guy that knows how to act like a gentleman. Save your animalistic behavior for the bedroom.
5 Thailand
Thailand is one of the most scenic places on the planet. Beautiful countrysides, awesome beaches, and scores of pretty women looking for white males are some of its features. Of course, there is a well-known dark side to this Southeast Asian country. It is one of the biggest sex tourism destinations on Earth and pedophiles are able to prey on underage children without too many risks. There are also plenty of ladyboys out there so be aware that the stunning Thai beauty you are eying up could really be a guy. Thai women are partial to white men for many of the same reasons as white men are coveted in other Southeast Asian countries. White foreign males represent an opportunity for an improved life and financial stability. Also like many other Southeast Asian countries, Thai women treat their men quite well, are fairly loyal, and don’t mind if you’re a little fat.
4 Vietnam
Many women in Vietnam don’t have it easy. There is a lot of sex tourism and human trafficking going on while pre-arranged marriages are popular. They see white males as their ticket out of a hellish lifestyle. With that said, they stand by their men and they know how to keep them happy. Vietnamese women have very attractive features that western dudes drool over and, despite religious influence, they don’t have a hard time getting a man’s attention. One thing that you should know if you plan on finding and possibly marry a Vietnamese chick is that you will be expected to give the family some money. It’s just one of those cultural things that you’ll have to deal with but it will be worth it if you find a great lady.
3 Cambodia
Cambodia is another Asian country that is trying to put itself back together after years of war and tyrannical leadership. Women will do pretty much anything to make a buck because if they don’t then they will starve. It makes all the sense in the world that Cambodian females want to have a white male come along and save them. To many, it’s like winning the lottery. If you are interested in going to Cambodia to find the woman of your dreams then be prepared for a good dose of culture shock. While a bit of time in Phnom Penh is highly recommended, be sure to visit the outlying areas and smaller villages to find awesome women that will treat you like a king as long as you treat them right.
2 Peru
There are loads of sexy Peruvian women that are just waiting for a white male to sweep them off their feet. It is estimated that over 70% of expats living in Peru are in a relationship with a Peruvian woman. Peru might be a wonderful place to visit but a lot of guys would have reservations about living there long-term. This is why it would be worth it to meet a Peruvian woman online, establish a relationship, and visit her. Better yet, just go there and jump right in. Peruvians are more or less very welcoming to foreigners and the women are quite loyal to their mates. As is the rule in many other countries; treat them with respect and show off your romantic and gentlemanly side and you should be able to reel in a stunner.
1 Singapore
One thing that you will notice if you are chilling on a Singaporean beach is that there are plenty of white guys. They stick out like a sore thumb. You will then notice that these guys are accompanied by sexy Singaporean women. These women love white males and it doesn’t matter if the guy is young and fit or if he is way past his prime and out of shape. Singapore is another country in which males dominate and most women are rather subservient. Local women like that foreign men are a little more romantic, respectful, and pay more attention to their needs than the local guys. Foreigners also tend to be more outgoing while Singaporean guys are more reserved. An awkward looking dude that would never get a second look in their native country will find himself to be a hot item in this tropical paradise.
With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I cannot help but dwell on who might be coming to dinner. Last holiday season gave me plenty of food for thought on this all too familiar and often uncomfortable racially-tinged question. One of my male relatives brought home a date for Thanksgiving who could have been Barbie's twin sister. She was blonde, thin, big-bosomed, and even had a Germanic name. She was probably very nice; but I cannot say for sure. She was shy and didn't talk much in what was likely an unfamiliar and perhaps overwhelming African American social setting. Another of my male relatives brought home a woman for Christmas who seemed like a modern-day, socially progressive southern belle. She was blonde, full figured, outgoing, and outspoken with a saucy southern accent and friendly, expressive manner. Two of my younger male relatives have recently been engaged to white women, and one tied the knot last summer. This is a pattern that I have observed in my professional life for years: successful black men pairing up with white women, but now that the practice has come home to roost, so to speak, I cannot help but admit to feeling a bit demoralized.
I wish my male relatives luck and joy in their relationships, but I also feel a pinch when I watch them with their girlfriends. It is the same sharp tug of disappointment that gets me every time I see a black man with a white woman on his arm. Try as I might to suppress the reaction, I experience black men's choice of white women as a personal rejection of the group in which I am a part, of African American women as a whole, who have always been devalued in this society.
Certainly my reaction links back to a few bad apples in my own young dating years. Once I overheard my black boyfriend telling his buddies how he preferred white women; on another occasion (with a different black boyfriend) a guy told me he didn't care that I was breaking up with him because he could go out and get a white woman, which was what he really wanted anyway. For both these men (and to be fair, they were not much older than 20 at the time and thus had plenty of maturing to do), white women were the pinnacle of womanhood -- the prize that they secretly coveted, the emotional weapon that they knew they could wield. But personal moments of rejection are not the driving force behind my resentful feelings about black male-white female relationships now. The driving force is, instead, my awareness of all of the (straight) African American women -- beautiful, smart, good women, some of them my own family and friends -- who might not have a honey to bring home this Thanksgiving holiday because they cannot find a date, even as rising numbers of eligible African American men will be wooing white women.
In a perfect world, love would be blind. Individuals would choose each other for kindness, intelligence, perseverance, courage, and a host of other mysterious reasons that make attraction so magical. Race and the characteristics that have come to represent it -- like skin color, eye color, and hair texture -- would not be factors in matters of the heart. This is the way things would be if our love lives actually mirrored recent scientific findings, which tell us the human family is so genetically close that we share more than 99 percent of our DNA. Genetically speaking, there are no racial categories; race is merely skin deep. Dating and marrying across racial lines should therefore be natural, common and acceptable. But this is not a perfect world. This is the United States, where a deep-seated notion of racial difference has been the rationalization for oppression, the rallying cry for discrimination against people who are not white. Within this racialized landscape in which whiteness has reigned supreme, the line between white and black has been the starkest marker of racial difference, with the white side of the line representing all that is positive, and the black side of the line representing all that is negative. Whiteness has been a privileged and prized identity in the U.S.; our national culture has made it this way. So when black men select white women and de-select black women, they are doing so in a context of charged racial meanings.
This is not a cut and dried issue. It is tangled and difficult. I recognize that many people form loving relationships across the black-white color line. Some of the people I admire and respect most in my professional life are black men married to white women and white women married to black men. These relationships are caring and genuine, and surely bring happiness to the individuals involved in them. I have even dated outside of my racial group, and I married someone who isn't black -- a Native American man (with, I must add, distant French and African ancestry). But this collection of happily ever after stories does not mean that love is blind. Romantic attraction is subject to the larger social forces of racial prestige and stigma that swirl all around us, and in this environment, black women are losing out. Despite the steamy scenes on ABC's hit show, Scandal (and yes, I am a fan), most single black women are not dating white men (and certainly not hunky white men who hold high government offices and are willing to risk all they have achieved for illicit love). Many single black women are instead finding themselves ignored in today's dating scene.
While interracial marriage rates in this country have grown remarkably to 8.4 percent in 2010, Americans still marry within their own racial group the majority of the time. And when people do venture across the color line to date, they do so in ways that continue to affirm a social hierarchy based on race in which whiteness is prized. White men are the most sought after dates by women of all groups (except for African American women, who, researchers speculate, may rule out white men due to the fear of being stereotyped). White men can therefore afford to be the pickiest group in the online dating market; they respond to fewer overtures than other men on dating websites, and they have a strong preference for white women. White women are less willing than white men to date outside of their racial group, but heavier-set white women are more willing to date black men, because, researchers Cynthia Feliciano, Belinda Robnett, and Golnaz Komaie of UC Irvine posit, of 'racial-beauty exchange theory' -- the notion that a white woman who is less attractive by the measure of dominant Euro-American beauty standards is willing to 'trade down' on the racial hierarchy by dating a black man. By the same token, black men who date white women are 'trading up' on the American racial hierarchy.
Most striking to me in recent sociological studies about interracial dating and marriage, is that on every measure, African American women seem to come out at the bottom of the pile. Black people as a whole intermarry with whites less frequently than other people of color do; and black women intermarry far less than black men. This is due in part to the unsettling evidence that many groups of men do not prefer black women. According to data released by the online dating site OkCupid, black women (perhaps due to politeness; perhaps due to the recognition of their less desirable status) respond to more initial overtures than other groups; at the same time, black women's initial contacts are ignored most often. In today's dating market black women are less preferred -- and here is the kicker -- sometimes even by black men. Social science researchers posit that black men's attraction to white women as evidenced by dating behavior and growing intermarriage rates is in part historically rooted. Because white women were taboo for black men for centuries in this country to the extent that black men could be lynched for the appearance of involvement with white women, access to white women may be more alluring for black men now. Sociologists also find that because white Americans as a whole are still the most powerful racial group in this country (politically, economically, and socially), non-whites seek to marry into that group in order to increase their own social status. As UC Berkeley sociologist Gerald Mendelsohn put it in an interview: 'One theory is that blacks are acting like other minority populations in the history of this country . . . They are interested in moving up in the power structure, and one way you do that is through intermarriage with the dominant group.'
These racial and gender preferences and the reasons behind them may not be conscious to people in the dating world, who, by and large, would probably decry bias against black women. Nevertheless, these preferences have real effects. While more black men date and marry white women than ever before, more black women cannot even get a first 'chat' on Internet dating sites. African American women are plagued by persistent, age-old stereotypes that represent them as too strong, argumentative and unfeminine. And as wonderful as they are, African American women can never measure up to the narrowly defined beauty ideals based on Euro-American aesthetics that are so firmly entrenched in this culture. Even after the Black is Beautiful seventies, it is still the case that when African American women are upheld as beautiful in popular media, they usually have lighter skin, longer hair, and thinner body types that adhere more closely to those dominant standards.
First Lady Michelle Obama is a glowing exception to these daunting data and a beacon of beauty in this skewed aesthetic environment. The person who would become one of the most successful black men in the history of the world chose her, and she him. So to all of the African American women out there who feel like your shine is not being recognized, who feel a little pinch of rejection each time you see an accomplished black man with a white woman on his arm: take heart. We may be down in this cultural contest for love and appreciation, but we are not out.